Tuesday, November 11, 2014

10 on 10


7am morning light | 8am morning giggles


9am post-breakfast stroll | 10am kicking up her heels


11am the mama top-knot | 12pm puppy smiles and sandy toes


1pm low tide| 3pm quiet play time


4pm ironing papa's uniform | 5pm tired face

2pm was spent reclining nervously in a dentist chair whilst I anxiously twisted my fingers. I received a $3200 quote for a short section of braces spanning six teeth along my upper jaw, then there's the ceramic crown and retainer to be made when the braces are removed in nine months time; an additional $2000. I think I'll give it a miss. There's beauty in imperfection I tell myself.

I'd much rather come home to play with this sweet girl as the thunder clouds roll over the mountains, rumbling all the way to the sea.

Bella xx

Saturday, November 8, 2014

The First Month- Her Full Moon

I had written her birth story and somehow accidentally (probably through sheer exhaustion) replaced this important entry with the contents of my post on Taking Stock. Feeling a little deflated after pouring much emotion into the words that formed her story, I have decided to rewrite her birth journey. I may share it with you later however, in the meantime I wanted to write about some of the quirks, surprises, endearing features, new parent experiences and other observations we made in her first month.


Birth Stats:
Weight: 3.5 kg / 7 lbs 11 oz
Length: 49cm
Head circumference: 34.5cm

If it weren't for this gravitational pull, thick with emotion, fear, joy and love towards this tiny baby I might feel like this whole experience did not happen at all. Dreamlike, my consciousness floats from surprise to acceptance and back to surprise again that we, a young couple in love could have made a person together. Happy birthday my sweet girl.


Week 1

Our first night together as mother and daughter was dark and still, save for the constant stirring of either Love or the newborn on the other side of the curtain in our share room. The other new mother could be heard trying to soothe her baby and my heart truly went out to them both as her daughter had difficulty latching.
In the dim light of that room I could just make out baby Love's tiny lips, forming a neat seal against my breast as she drank from first the left and then the right side. I hadn't realised that she could suckle for 50 or so minutes for each feed. I had been warned that breastfeeding could be a painful experience however, she knew instinctually what to do and so we figured it out together, with the gentle encouragement of different midwives as they came and went with the hours. The only breast feeding discomfort I felt during the first week occurred from the second day and it only persisted for the first two or three suckles before she began to rhythmically draw colostrum from my breast.
I stole every opportunity available to me to inhale her sweet newborn scent, to gaze at her intently and marvel at her ethereal beauty, her dark chocolate hair, her delicate fingers and tiny toes. So small and dependent on her mother for nourishment, warmth, frequent nappy changes, burping, and comfort. I was dependent on her too, I felt as though my heart would stop beating at any sign of distress in her tiny face or body language.


Her first week involved many emotions that were amplified by changing hormones, little sleep and disbelief that we are now parents.
I loved her from the moment we knew she was growing inside me but meeting her as she rested against my chest for the first time on her birthday, so tiny, her limbs trembling at the shock of leaving her water environment, her small, round head covered in thick, dark chocolate hair, her skin moist, fleshy pink, warm and covered in creamy vernix caseosa.
I was shocked that she was a girl, having been told by nearly every person I met that they 'could tell' from the shape or height of my bump that I was carrying a son. When Byron wrapped his arms around the two of us and whispered with a voice broken with love, 'We have a daughter', I was in disbelief. Until he said that, even as she rested against me for the first time, I was convinced this baby was a little boy. It was the greatest surprise of my life and one that I will never regret waiting to find out the answer. She was finally here and she was perfect.

I've complied a list of some of the little things that seemed particularly memorable from her first week.

Baby Love: Her sweet newborn smell and her dark chocolate hair, the softest I have ever caressed within the palm of my hands. Her newborn fingernails were surprisingly long at birth, so much so that we realised her nails would need to be trimmed shortly after her first bath. The vernix caseosa was thick and creamy white at birth. We delayed her first bath until the afternoon of her second day to allow the vernix to moisturise and protect her skin.

Her first three days were spent wrapped in tiny white cotton hospital gowns so small they looked as though they had been designed for dolls and yet somehow appeared loose and oversized on her tiny frame. I was surprised at how often her cloth nappies would soak through almost immediately following a feed. Our routine became feed, burp, soothe, change her nappy and tightly secure with happy snaps, sleep, repeat. The sticky dark meconium, thick and tar-like was a little harder to wipe from her skin than I had anticipated however, it only lasted for three or so days before I began to produce milk.

Her eyebrows were so faint, they appeared to vanish in dim light and her tiny eyelashes, almost invisible at birth began to extend a little beyond her eyelids in the first week. Tiny flakes of skin peeled from hands and feet and lips in her first days- I was not expecting this but they soon healed. The outer edges of her tiny ears were covered in the finest black hairs and her first sneeze, almost a squeak, melted our hearts.

I had stocked up on cloth nappies, which were washed and line dried, soft and ready for use in the weeks before she arrived however, I did not expect the adjustable nappies to be too large for her and so we used the disposable newborn nappies gifted to me from my work at my farewell. I'm environmentally conscious and reluctantly packed these nappies as an afterthought, thinking at the time that I probably would not use them but they were very much needed at our discharge from hospital. Thank you, dear work friends, for your kindness.

On her discharge from hospital we discussed several medical matters with a paediatrician, including her jaundice. Most babies have some level of jaundice in the days to weeks following birth and so we were instructed to be vigilant in monitoring her appearance and behaviour for any signs of increased yellowing of her skin and the whites of her eyes and excessive sleepiness. This baffled me somewhat as I had no way to gauge whether this newborn of ours was overly sleepy or not, or whether she was jaundiced due to some health complication or merely due to the breastmilk or her Chinese-Malaysian heritage (more on this in my second post-birth instalment, her Second Month).

This baby loves to be bathed, she relaxes and floats, her head supported above the water by my forearm as I gently trickle warm water over her skin. She is not so relaxed when it comes time to dry her and so we heat her towels first by draping them over an oil heater and work as quickly and carefully as possible to dry her before her tiny body loses too much warmth. I have found that the best way to comfort her post-bathing is to offer her my breast and allow her to self-soothe as she drinks until she sleeps. This is a quiet, beautiful time for us to bond. Baby Love, I learn so much about motherhood from you during these precious, fleeting moments.


Papa: Papa was not permitted to stay over night and so he visited every day for the whole day, with small excursions to purchase supplies in town. Slippers for mama, gluten free snacks. He brought my phone charger from home (I assume many women accidentally forget certain items from their hospital bag), along with our camera which was not present during her birth. I had wanted to document the event prior to labour but our priorities changed a day or two beforehand when we decided we'd rather focus on what was happening, rather than Byron standing back to take photographs.

Watching him with her was like experiencing my heart double in size and fill with love. Two people who mean everything to me. He looked both nervous and natural with her as he cradled her in his arms and softly sang Hokkien baby songs to encourage her to relax and sleep. Mai hau, mai hau, oh oh oh.


Mama: I still cannot quite believe that my left foot was infected during this whole process. I limped around throughout her birth and afterwards. It made night time feeds and changes, going to the bathroom, turning over in bed, any movement involving my foot uncomfortable.

Her first feed was from my right breast, in the bright lights of the birthing suite. She latched perfectly and suckled for a short time as Byron and I cooed and cried with happiness. Any woman who has breast fed from birth could tell you that colostrum feeds are frequent for the first three or so days. The hospital policy was that no baby should go six hours without a feed and so she fed every two to three hours for up to an hour at a time, switching between breasts after every 20 to 30 minutes. The length of each feed slowly tapered off to around ten to fifteen minutes by her fourth day and she fed less frequently due to her growing stomach staying fuller for longer.

I had stitches, many stitches which I began to notice after Love was fed, changed and nestled in her large clear cot beside my bed. When the lights were low and Byron had left for the evening and it was just the two of us, the discomfort of the aftermath of birth began to settle in. Coupled with the occasional twinge of afterbirth contractions with every feed and a catheter which became blocked, her first night was a challenging one. I recall buzzing the midwives three times to request the catheter be removed as I felt uncomfortable, like my bladder was full. After two midwives came and went without touching the catheter as 'the doctor would need to ok it's removal first' and my third button call did not result in anyone coming to assist me, I pulled myself out of bed and limped along the corridor until I reached the nurses desk. I explained how uncomfortable I felt and that I believed the catheter was obstructed or twisted or something as I needed to use the bathroom. For the third time I was told that a doctor would need to approve the removal of the catheter when he or she came on shift.

As the sun rose on her second day, a friendly midwife came on shift and offered to check my catheter. 'Oh dear, it appears to be blocked' she chirped and promptly removed it. I was instructed to void into a bed pan positioned over the toilet. 1.3 litres, say that slowly to yourself... Thirteen ... Hundred... Millilitres was collected. Surely that has to be some kind of record...

I managed to sleep for two hours each night for the first three nights. I recall staring at the thin black hands of the white wall clock at the end of my bed and feeling disbelief at how rapidly the hours ticked by, all the while wishing for the sun to rise so Byron could visit at 8am and I could safely leave her in his care whilst I showered.

By her third day I had slept only six out of 72 hours and the feelings of self-doubt and exhaustion quickly began to creep under my skin causing me to cry. I was overwhelmed but felt like I would endure the exhaustion for as long as it took. When I was unable to settle her on our last night in hospital, one of the midwives quietly walked into my room, offered to take her from my arms and told me not to worry about crying, it was just the three day blues caused by the raging hormones and lack of sleep. She reassured me that many mothers experience this moment and though I tried to settle my baby, I may have actually been overstimulating her due to the scent of my breastmilk. I hobbled along the corridor to collect ice from the patient fridge for my swelling and broke down on my return to my bed when Love began to cry as soon as I entered the room.
'Don't cry dear' the midwife soothed, 'She can smell you, she knows it's you, that's all.' That was the moment I realised how difficult parenthood could be.


Appetite: I did not expect to feel so ravenous and yet I managed to devour the meals provided from egg salad, with sides of yoghurt and fruit, dry gluten free bread with strawberry jam and honey, to mashed potato with salmon, steamed vegetables and small cartons of milk. I ate everything brought to my table, a sign perhaps that I required the fuel to produce breast milk and energy to tend to her at any hour. I even nibbled on some chocolate at 3am following one feed as I needed the energy. Thankfully, Byron brought coconut water and bananas with him when he visited.

By the evening of her third day... Helloooo milk. My misshapen breasts were fully engorged and uncomfortable. Physically I looked as if I had undergone a radical breast augmentation where uneven implants too large for my frame were inserted. Milk over supply is an understatement and if it weren't for thick cotton breast pads, I would have saturated every shirt I wore. Thank goodness Love had an appetite to rival my own.

Most evenings I drank over one litre of water to quench my thirst and keep up the supply. I generally know when Love is due for a feed by the size and slight discomfort level of my bust. We'll get there baby girl...

In terms of what I am producing, I am unable to breakdown cellulose (like the rest of us) and so my high fibre diet must contribute to bowel movements. The first movement post-birth is tricky and you may find that you experience some constipation. For those of you who are yet to deliver, keep up those fluids, the fibre and regular gentle exercise. As for the rest of the mamas out there, I can imagine you silently nodding in agreement. It's not pleasant but it is necessary so looking after yourself is key. Apart from the healthy diet and water, when attempting the post-birth number two, I ensured my legs were slightly elevated by lifting my heels (you could use a foot stool), pressing down into my toes, leaning my body forward and remembering to breathe, not strain. Don't be surprised if your first movements have changed in form, frequency or colour, simply take it easy and ask for assistance if needed.

The majority of week one was spent with myself on bed rest when I wasn't feeding, changing, showering or using the bathroom. I sat up in my bed and watched over her as she slept.

The room: Our home for the first three days of her life. I shared a room with a girl from our antenatal class. I was so grateful to have someone as new to this experience as I resting behind a thick green curtain. At different times throughout the night we would apologise to one another for making noise and not knowing how to respond to the different cries and stirring noises made by our newborn babies, their births separated by two hours and two walls. We were supportive of one another and I was grateful that I wasn't alone with Love for her first night.
Bunches of blooming flowers began to arrive at the hospital in the hours following her birth. Every morning a pair of elderly women in musk pink coloured polo shirts would arrive to place the flowers in vases.
Visitors in the form of family members came to see us the morning following her birth. This was an emotional time and one I won't soon forget.

The midwives were friendly, helpful and supportive, especially our student midwife, with whom we formed a very special bond. Baby Love is named after her, we shared this news with her as she stroked my forehead during labour.
'If it's a girl, we decided to name her after you' Byron told her.
'Now I know it's a girl' she smiled as she sat next to the birthing pool, counting with me through each surge.

Home: On her third day we were discharged from hospital. Unexpectedly, I had mixed emotions about this. On the one hand I was excited to be heading back to the comfort of our own bed, our own food, the sound of the ocean, seeing our fur babies (Max and Coco) and welcoming baby Love to her first home. However, this also meant no more support from the midwives, no more meals delivered to my bedside (or so I thought at the time), and the security of knowing we were where we needed to be should she require urgent medical attention.

The drive home was slow, I sat in the backseat watching over my tiny baby in her car seat with the attention of a hawk. Byron asked for regular updates every few minutes as I narrated her sleeping posture, tiny pursed lips and clenched fists.
We arrived home in the late afternoon, warm golden rays of sunlight penetrated the spikey leaves of the pandas trees casting long shadows across our driveway. As the winter sun dipped low in the sky, Byron unclipped baby Love from her car seat as I took a tiny newborn singlet which Love had worn inside our house where our little dog trembled with excitement and possible anxiety from our three day long separation. She yelped a high pitch bark and leaped from lounge to floor to lounge again, unable to sit still. I wrapped my hands around her small furry chest to calm her down, her heartbeat pounding away at alarming speed. Next, I produced the singlet for her to sniff the baby's scent but to my surprise and horror, Coco ripped the singlet from my fingertips and shook the fabric so violently it appeared as though she was trying to kill it.

It was then that I realised that she was playing and did not grasp what I was trying to do. Seconds later Byron appeared at the door holding our tiny daughter. Coco began to bark again and we hushed her through gritted teeth. Byron knelt down with Love and Coco raced over to him before skidding to a halt to cautiously sniff the baby. The moment of truth... She appeared unsure before racing back to me, too excited at my return.


Home life was a flurry of quiet helpers washing clothes, preparing meals, bringing each meal to my bedside on an aqua fold away tray table. Home was navigating my way to the bathroom in the darkness, passed the bassinet and air mattress in the middle of the floor where our sister slept soundly. I was somewhat confined, per Chinese culture to rest for the first month with Love. Home was bed rest, neighbourhood visitors who dropped off gifts and cards of congratulations without seeing Love as she slept. Home was greeting one very excited little dog who thought I had forgotten her and one apathetic cat, who really couldn't care less about the additional human. Home was receiving ang pau (traditional red packets containing gifts of money for Love) from Byron's family, late night discussions on religion, quiet celebration, joy, and bittersweet happiness that Byron's family had the opportunity to meet Love briefly before they returned home to Sydney and Dubai.

Week 2

My infected foot and post-birth healing continued, and my milk (over) supply was still all over the place. Baby Love had her very first outing to a nearby coastal village. That evening I woke up drenched in breast milk and had caught a cold. My mother-in-law (Mom) had remained to provide assistance to us and Oh! The food! Hands down the fastest recovery time for a cold, thanks to the delicious meals prepared by Mom and the mandatory bed rest. Mom helped out a lot, I was left wondering, have the fairies been here? Her family recipe for chicken essence ensured my breastmilk (neng neng) continued to flow, and on many occasions, squirt.


Each morning we woke to find that her little features had changed overnight, her little nose was no longer flat, her blue eyes had begun to cloud, her fingernails were longer. Her tiny pearly white milk spots (milia) on her nose had begun to disappear.


I was fearful of cutting her with the infant nail clippers and scissors as her fingers were tiny. If she flinched, as she sometimes did with the Moro (startle) reflex, I risked snipping her skin and so we covered her hands with mittens or baby socks; socks were preferable as they stayed in place.


We had a home visit from a local midwife who weighed her and discussed breast feeding and support services in our local area. I was pleased to learn that she had regained almost all of the weight she lost in hospital and should continue to gain between 150 to 200 grams per week in the first month or so. Her jaundice was still concerning and so we were instructed to expose her to morning sunlight for short periods. It was either sunshine or formula and that for me is a last resort, if at all.


Week 3

Mom returned to Dubai this week and Byron extended his leave from one fortnight to one month. This week heralded the beginning of our quiet little life of three (plus Coco and Maxi). We coped surprisingly well, settling into our daily rhythm. Love feeds on demand, there are no routines or 'trying to fill her up' before bed. We co-sleep together, all three of us, which assists me with night time feeds as I don't need to get out of bed as often. My stitches continue to heal, although none have dissolved yet.

Love is reaching new milestones, she holds mutual gaze for a few extra seconds compared to her first week and she can throw her head backwards when I burp her. I take this as a sign that she is gaining strength in her neck muscles but I do need to be careful to support her properly particularly when she flops forward as her face has bumped against my collarbone and that is painful, Mama.


We attended her second midwife appointment this week, only this time we ventured to the next town. Love is steadily gaining weight and has now been called 'a little guts', which I wasn't too impressed to hear. Yes, she feeds well. No, she is not a guts, she is hungry and gaining weight as she should. I am not spoiling my daughter by feeding her.


Our friends Jade and Jimmy came to visit. Jimmy cooked Morrocan chicken with Arab rice as we talked about parenthood, Jimmy's childhood in Saudi and how the weather is gradually warming up in Armidale, where they live. This was our first social interaction with friends since before she was born and it was truly relaxing to be in their company. Jade told me how in Chinese culture it is customary to shave a baby's head at their one month birthday and to celebrate their full moon with a party. We're not going to shave the soft, fine strands of her precious chocolate hair but I do like the idea of celebrating her full moon, even if it's just the three of us.


Week 4

This was Papa's last week at home before work. I recall having similar feelings to that first night, of being nervous at the thought of being alone with her, wondering if I am competent at being a mama. Can I cope for the hours with just the two of us? Can I really care for her without the midwife/ family/ Papa safety net?
Has it really been one month already?! Where has the time gone? How did she grow so quickly?
She sounds different now, her noises for food differ to those she makes for wanting to be held or changed, she's learning and so are we. She's even beginning to enjoy tummy time, which is a vast improvement on week one where she either slept or cried when placed on her tummy. Our baby girl can lift her tiny head, sure it shakes and bobs, much like her limb movements but they tremble less. She's gaining strength with each passing day.


So here we are, at her full moon, her first month in this bright, noisy and confronting world. Learning the different cries is an ongoing process. I'm not going to claim that I know what each sound she makes means. I go through the little checklist. Is she hungry? Uncomfortable? Wet? Too warm or cool? Does she want to be held? Is she unwell? Over or under stimulated? We're learning together, from one another and it's beautiful.

Welcome, baby Love. Happy full moon.

Love your Mama and Papa.

xxx

Sunday, October 26, 2014

43/52


When she was born her tiny eyelashes were so fine they were almost invisible. Gazing down on her as she feeds, I can see the gentle upward curve of her eyelashes form as she grows each week. Her eyes, once a deep blue are beginning to change colour. We wonder whether they will be as dark and alluring as her papa's espresso eyes or perhaps a lighter shade of chocolate, like mine.

There is no place I'd rather be than right here, watching the rise and fall of her tiny body as she nestles close to my heart.

Joining Jodi and friends.

Love Bella xx

Friday, October 24, 2014

Taking Stock...

Inspired by the ever lovely Jodi to participate in Pip's thoughtful Taking Stock exercise.


Making : a driftwood and felt whale mobile for baby Love
Cooking : plenty of fresh vegetables and the occasional gluten free date, chocolate and blueberry cake (recipe to follow soon!)
Drinking : camomile tea
Reading : Food Photography: From Snapshots to Great Shots by Nicole S. Young
Wanting : rain to water my vegetables and thirsty lawn
Looking : forward to Byron's next day off
Playing : games with Love with her Mr Fox toy from Alimrose
Deciding: where to travel in Malaysia next year
Wishing : a peaceful birth for my dear friends, who are due to welcome their first baby next month
Enjoying : quiet moments with family
Waiting : for Byron to have two consecutive days off work so we can have a mini break
Liking : bath time with this beauty
Wondering : whether I will have time to squeeze some more pilates into my weekend
Loving : morning bike rides with Coco as Byron walks with Love snug against his chest
Pondering : whether to create our own posts for The Sling Diaries. What do you think?
Considering : whether to create regular YouTube movies for our channel
Watching : clips from recent home movies
Hoping : that Love won't react badly to her second round of immunisations
Marvelling : at her growth in ten short weeks. The human body is miraculous!
Needing : a constant supply of filtered water (baby's thirsty!)
Smelling : sweet pea flowers hand delivered by the 80 year old lady down the road
Wearing : light cotton shirts and shorts in this warmer weather
Following : Mama Natural for whole food tips
Noticing : the generosity of family and friends
Knowing : that motherhood is the most rewarding and beautiful experience of my short life
Thinking : about what to cook for dinner. Steamed salmon served with crunchy steamed green beans and broccolini sprinkled with toasted almonds...
Admiring : Byron for his dedication to this little family between work shifts
Sorting : the clothes Love has outgrown (already!)
Buying : local seasonal vegetables
Getting : rest between feeds when I can
Bookmarking : Delancey: a Man, a Woman, a Restaurant, a Marriage
Disliking : when Love feels discomfort from wind
Opening : the windows to allow the sea breeze to freshen our home
Giggling : with this sweet babe when she smiles her gummy grin
Feeling : a little tired but very content
Snacking : on steamed broccoli and sliced mushrooms lightly drizzled with olive oil
Coveting : the beautiful wardrobe of this pretty babe
Wishing : for small waves and a gentle breeze on Sunday so I can try out the stand up paddle board
Helping : the elderly neighbour across the road to water her garden whilst her daughter is out of town
Hearing : as always, the music of the waves as they crash upon the shore

Happy Friday friends, have a safe and sun drenched weekend. Pop back soon to read baby Love's birth story.

Love Bella xx

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Awareness


I've been drifting through the days in a busy haze, trying to complete chores such as feeding the worms our green waste, watering the wilting silverbeet in the terracotta pots in our tiny garden, bringing the washing in before the cool evening air makes the cloth nappies damp but somewhere along the way I became less aware of my surroundings. Instead I've fallen into the trap of stumbling through each day as if washing the dishes or showering or having breakfast before midday is an accomplishment (admittedly some days these little tasks feel like major victories with a young baby). I find myself asking what day is it again? Do I have any appointments this week? What did I open the refrigerator for?

What happens outside the bubble of our small, new family? What's new with the neighbours? When do the Humpback whales finish their northern migration along the east coast? Oh, they're heading south again... Already?!

When did falling into a routine mean falling out of sync with nature and those around us?


Being aware of issues is more than reading your Facebook feed for the latest trending news. It's more than asking a friend how they are and leaving it at that when they say with a downward gaze, 'I'm fine'.

Acknowledging the effort others make to assist our family means it is necessary to make the time to thank each and every person individually. Plus, it's a nice thing to do and gratitude is a wonderful thing.

Being aware of what I eat means baby Love's breast milk diet will be healthier and full of all the nutrition she requires to grow and develop. Awareness of the impact of diet on our health is more than merely eating fruit and vegetables, it's about making the time to read the labels on our household products, learning how these items were manufactured and deciding to support those companies and people who are making a positive difference for our future, our children and planet. Eat local. Eat organic I tell myself over and over again. It matters.

I'm going to feed the worms and water our plants so that our family will have thriving home grown food. I'm going to invite friends over to share the bounty of our local farmers. I'm going to take my daughter to the beach to witness the spectacle that is the annual migration of the whales. I'm going to take ten minutes every day to sit and be present. To drink camomile tea and slow down, to take stock of our life and our decisions so that we continue to make the right ones.


Being aware of who I am and what is important to me makes my life rewarding.

I am a carer of the environment.
A supporter of ethical choices.
Someone's friend.
A dreamer.
A traveller.
A wife.
A mama.

Who are you?

xx

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Introducing... Baby Love


She arrived on a chilly winter evening, four nights after the brightest supermoon of the year. We're still getting to know one another and spend most of our days wrapped in a cocoon of soft cotton blankets by the seaside. Her scent is faintly sweet, her dark chocolate hair the softest I have ever felt.

We were very surprised to discover we had a daughter and feel very, very blessed that this delicate newborn is ours.

Welcome, baby Love.

xxx

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Bumpin'... 39 Weeks at the Jetty

As some of you may have already noticed, we welcomed little Pecan back in August, a couple of days after these photos were taken. It has taken me quite some time to edit them, what with the breakdown of my laptop, the birth of Pecan, the turbulent, exciting, love-soaked and sleep-deprivating initial weeks with our sweet babe... Not to mention the fact that I have not wanted to spend hours in front of this bright screen when I could in fact be gazing at our beautiful baby.

Apologies for the delay in posting this final Bumpin' entry (if you've been following and waiting, thank you) and without further ado, here is the entry I had written immediately prior to our little Pecan's arrival...

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In our 39th week together, we took you to the local jetty. It was another gorgeous winters day, warm with a cool gentle breeze.

Pecan: According to the midwife at our most recent appointment, you are 3/5 engaged and in the OA position (Occiput Anterior). I can feel the smooth, round curve of your back on my right side and for the past few weeks, you have been tickling high up under my left ribs with your tiny feet. We continue to walk together and though I've been forewarned that you might just feel too comfortable in there and decide to stay for another three or so weeks, we really, really hope you join us sooner as B's family will have travelled all the way from the northern hemisphere for the purpose of meeting you and they're only here for one short week...

The Bump: By some miracle, a dash of family genes, and possibly assisted by multiple daily massages with sweet almond and coconut oil, I have managed to avoid stretch marks. The exception is one tiny purple dot below where I used to wear a navel piercing. I have noticed tiny pink dots appear and grow in number across my belly as it has grown and oh my goodness has my skin been itchy between massages, talk about stretched. On the whole, I'm rather proud of this bump as it protects and insulates you from the world until you are ready and that, my dear baby, makes it very special.

Mama: Tiny little annoyances such as lack of sleep, some discomfort with my rapidly increasing size and the occasional back and pelvis ache are gentle reminders that you are with me throughout all of this, only you're more cramped and running out of space to turn and stretch.

We have a deal, you and I. I walk daily, I stretch slowly, inhaling deep, deliberate breaths down into my belly and practice the hypnnobirthing techniques that I have done for the past trimester. Your part of the deal is to keep healthy and strong for your incredible journey. I nourish you with fresh or lightly boiled vegetables, clean, filtered water, prenatal vitamins, and a menu filled with all the sweet wonders that Mother Earth provides naturally.

I feel calm, I visualise your birth and breathing you down. I count silently with each breath to practice control. I have no fear, only love and strength to birth you naturally. My hope is for a natural birth, free from interventions and though in the back of my mind I am aware that special circumstances may arise that may take our birth preference along a different path, I hope and pray for all of us that your journey will be a peaceful one. This is what I want for you.

Papa: You have been the single constant person in my life who has provided support and unconditional love. You have provided back rubs to soothe my dull aches, your time to accompany me to medical appointments and to check on me in the night. You have continued to work in order to provide for our family and most importantly, you have been available to me at any hour, even when I have been unreasonable in my pregnancy demands. From ordering you to stop cooking and to 'take that smelly food outside' during my period of debilitating morning sickness to driving over an hour to source the one food item that I could stomach. You have waited for me in the car countless times whilst I tried to finish work, and you forgave me when I forgot our anniversary, where I put the tongs and, well, just about everything else I touched and 'put away'. You spent hours in the hot sun fitting the infant car seat in my tiny car, all the while I napped.

I will miss the way you talk to the baby through my belly. Conversations about where you want us to travel together, how excited you are about Pecan's growth and imminent birth for a proper introduction. You sang and told our baby how beautiful their mama was. In fact, you said that often and in all honesty, I have never felt more beautiful.

There are many more things to share but for now, we look forward to meeting our little Pecan with wide eyes and open hearts.

Love,

Your Mama

xxx

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